What really goes on
For anyone who has any disillusions about CPS and what they really do to families all over the United States, I highly suggest purchasing and reading Memoirs of a Baby Stealer: Lessons I’ve Learned as a Foster Mother. It’s written from firsthand accounts and experiences a real foster mother has had in her dealings with various CPS agencies, as well as the “higher ups”.
The sad fact of the matter is that for every one child that is truly in need of help and being removed from the home, there are five more that are pulled just because. Because they can. Because they want to. Because they see the dollar signs, they enjoy throwing their weight around.
So many times it’s about power and money, and not about the child’s best interest (a statement both my mother and I have made to the Children & Youth workers, their supervisor, and to everyone who is willing to listen). In the case of my brothers, it really IS about power and money. This post shows proof enough of that.
We have written more letters. Passed out more businesses cards. Made more phone calls. Now we sit, and we wait. We deal with the tearful phone calls from my brothers, and I hold myself together in front of my mother but let myself go in front of my husband and best friend, because I’m strong enough to take her grief and the grief of my brothers, but she isn’t strong enough to take mine on top of her own and theirs.
I hate the waiting game.
October 1st, 2008 at 7:54 am
Dear Jenn,
My prayers are with you and your family. I feel your pain.. and i want you to know.. that if i can do anything.. i will.. *hugs*
You take care.. and send my love to your mother as well.. *hugs*
October 1st, 2008 at 2:45 pm
Do you have a myspace for this as well? There are many families who have lost their children to CPS fighting the battle you are on myspace. Might want to consider it!
October 1st, 2008 at 2:48 pm
I’d also like to make you some more banners ect. Let me know if you need anything specific!
October 1st, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Wow I have seen completely different. I see kids stay in homes because they are too full to put them anywhere else. I see kids that get returned to child molesters because re-unification is always the first choice.
It could be an area thing, but in our area there have to be three complaints made to social services before they will consider taking them out of the home. Now, that doesn’t mean an obviously hurt child or something like that. BUT when it comes to cases like your brothers they would have to have repeat calls about that. I think in your case it’s a misuses of powers, the wrong person is probably pissed off and wants to make your lives miserable.
I think I’m going to read that book though. It’s just been my general experience that a person who truly messed up will do what they need to do to get their kids back and learn the lesson that needed to be learned. All the others, if given the right amount of rope, will do nothing. I’ve never actually seen an unjustifiable case, thankfully!