I’m from Canada, but we have our version of CPS here which is CAS (Children’s Aid Society) and I’ve never seen them do any good. I’ve never been involved, but I could only imagine what you all must be going through.

My thoughts are with you all, and I hope this gets resolved, and resolved quickly. On top of all the problems the boys have on their own – this isn’t something they need to be adding to it. ugh.

How can children get the feeling of love when they get ripped from their homes by strangers, then put into glorified boarding houses with people who’s only interest is to get the money the state pays to the foster care people?

Well, hopefully children would feel love while in foster care, at least that was my goal. I know there are horror stories, but please don’t lump anyone into that whole get the money from the kids from the state deal. It’s not worth it. I can’t see anyone getting kids for money. I make more monthly blogging than I would from one foster child, and if I had the maximum amount which is 4 that barely equals a weeks paycheck for most jobs. Secondly, don’t the boarding places usually hire people to work minimum wage to take care of these kids? Those are some of the most selfless people ever. I agree there are problems, but it’s 90% with the system and workers.

Charity,

One thing I have noted with CYS – they “offer” kinship care to the family members but will find ANY reason, no matter how retarded, to keep the family members from taking the kids.

Sadly in Indiana this isn’t the case. We have to put kids in kinship care as much as possible because we have so many kids that need it. Almost every single person in my foster training class was a kinship placement, they were mostly grandparents.

I can see both sides of this. In Jenn’s case I don’t think anything was done wrong and I think she should have her brother in her care right now. I think her mom should have already been given what she needs to do to get him back so she could be completing that. They are dragging their heals badly.

In my own personal case kinship care would have been toxic with close relatives. It’s not always a good idea. In Jenn’s case I think it is.

I’ve read through all of the posts, and it sounds like your mother is going to extraordinary lengths to provide your brother with all the care and help they need. Your mother is to be commended, not incriminated. I don’t know what I can do to help, but I’ll do whatever I can. Write letters to state local representatives or media outlets, whatever route you guys feel is best to pursue. But one thing is sure, some one (if not everyone) needs to know about this atrocity that is happening. It just seems like some one is on an awful power trip, and is having a horrible effect on innocent people’s lives.

We have found that welfare people can be more abusive than those they are after. How can children be “protected” if they put them into crowded, unfeeling foster care homes that do not have enough room? How can children get the feeling of love when they get ripped from their homes by strangers, then put into glorified boarding houses with people who’s only interest is to get the money the state pays to the foster care people?

We sympathize with your problem. I am willing to blog about this because your children need their family and Mom. They do not need more and more upsets with strangers and more strangers. I am angry that once more, a state funded agency is tearing a family apart and telling people that it is necessary when it is obvious that they are lying even to the judge. That should cost some people their jobs right there.

Hopefully, this nightmare will end for you. But the only way it will is if the court makes the decision for you and orders the welfare people to leave you alone.